Bah..Another Ranting

Some questions which have perplexed me for quite some time. Evrybody is bound to have problems sometimes with some people due to some things they do or may be some thing they don’t do which you expect from them. You can get solutions to these problems.. You can stop talking to them, you can start neglecting them or may be the best solution you can try to sort out your problems with them by talking.

What do you do when the person says (s)he considers you a good friend but its always you who has to tick off the conversation… Isnt it bound to frustrate you sometimes or may be frustrate you so much that you just wanna stop talking to anyone and what if the same thing happens with many people…What should you do at these times?? Should you try and pursue people , leave everybody and continue your life or may be search for something wrong with you which could have forced them to stop talking to you… Or may be think of a more reasonable approach and think that they might be busy with their work and just continue with your work(which you dont have coz you are always completely jobless ) . Even if you accept the last solution and leave them to their world then what should you do if you feel the urge to talk to them after all they are your friends and you are supposed to talk to friends. In such situations what to do??? Fuck your self respect and again go to them and start talking to them???

More important and this is A TO BE ANSWERED query.. What to do if you have romantic interest in a person but she wouldnt call you but is very warm when you get a message in reply of a message you sent. Should you call or wait for her to call..if you were the first one to send a message and she replied to yours???

Another situation what to do about a friend who seems to be a very good friend of yours when you are talking to him/her alone but when the person is in some other company you just feel like you are an outsider intruding their privacy, they might be enjoying your company but you might be just feeling outcast with them. Should you stop talking to them when they are in that particular company but then can they be called friends of you or may be to say it in a better way can you call them your friends??? I was thinking of something but am so confused, have no answer..

Another (so called) friends of you who would just befriend you when they are alone and in need of some friend and be quite friendly to you but once they find other people they just start sidelining you to make way for newer and better(??? who can be better than me 8) ) friends. May be once in a blue moon they can come to you and talk to you and exude all the warmth which was there but then you realise that two hours later they just dont give a damn about you. What can you do about such people except hopng that somehow the trust they place on others also gets betrayed in the same manner as yours…

Another category, who just talk to you when in need while in other situations can just do with a simple hi!! and thats all the conversation you have with them..their work or a hi either from your side or yours but all the while trying to show that they are as good friends of you as you can find anywhere. Compared to these type of people i find the people who just come to you in the time of need and are otherwise indifferent to you better, atleast you won’t expect any thing from these people because they are just acquintances.

PS1:- This was not written in bad taste or intended to be humorous so dont laugh and dont get offended.
PS2:- Beatlemania ruling the roost in my music charts. Four songs playing in my playlist have play counts of 80,72,70,72. the songs are I wanna hold your hand,Help,Yesterday and Hey Jude in the order of play count (for the curious).
PS3:- Please don’t blast me if you dont like the post.. after all its my blog ain’t it?? 8)
PS4:- Thanks Halley for writing about the book Q & A in your post..An ultimate page turner. Indian answer to Sidney Sheldon.
PS5:- Happy Birthday Prashasti or may be i should write Prashanti(as some of our professors used to say) or may be Prashasthi(the spelling which vipul gave to her name 8) ) Pls dont kill me PRASHANTI… 😉

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5 thoughts on “Bah..Another Ranting

  1. Actually I liked this post… Most of the answers to the question u have posed will come when u think about it.. nad these will not be answers just for this month or year.. the same issues will crop up again and again in life. so u need to give them a good thot. as for me, if at any point i feel that i am not being given enough respect/i am being used/ everytime i have to take the initiative… i’ll say “fuck the relationship” unless the other person comes and apologisez.. no half measures for me here.

  2. Awesome post.Honesty to the core.Well in a way I fall in most of the categories mentioned but if someone aint talking to you maybe the person has nothing to talk about.Everyone cant talk evertime.Like Karan said if it goes beyond a point never ever kill your self respect.If you know you are a good person to befriend then you will make new friends along the way.
    Remember – nevr jump to conclusions fast about any person.

    PS:for the sake of humanity plz comment on my posts too!

  3. well i dont know what to say
    even i have been in such situations and i too seek answers and i think i decide them
    when i face … i mean i cant generalize my thoughts depends upon person to person and situation to situation
    and yeah just one more thing ….
    you maybe the one because of whom smone is in such a problem
    i mean think the other way round before jumping to any conclusion
    nice and thought provoking posts
    seems like i wanted to write such a post but as you, know unable to express my
    feelings most of the time …
    other than on commenting you blogs [thanx a ton] :p

  4. Liked your post…Read this post three times before commenting..So here I go…

    Firstly..Think about the relationship..If that relationship is very important for you,then if you have any difference of opinion ,sort it out..NEVER EVER keep the other person guessing what the hell is the matter and what has made you change so much!!! Sort out..Ya,if that person is not ready to change for you and continues to be the same even after you telling him/her so openly putting your self respect away,then you have every right to come out of the relationship..But without telling them,you cant cut away from a realtionship!! Its a two way channel,you have no right to take a decision on your own about a relationship.Tell them and come out!!!
    Most of the times,it might just be our prejudice,sometimes what people fill in our head,sometimes it might just be our own imagination which forces us to think about that person,(s)he might just have no such intentions and all the blame which we put on him/her.Never form an opinion on a person’s character..Also,you can’t expect people to always be happy and in their usual spirits every moment.They might be having their own problems and might not have had time to think about others.Dont expect people to always remain the same at every moment.
    Concluding my longest ever made comment,I would love to use your own words here —Come out of the saddistic frame of mind..Try to control your frustration sometimes and understand that whole world is not full of cheaters and bad ppl many ppl are good whom you might not have known or might have misconceptions abt them…These lines I felt would aptly fit in this context… Keep blogging 🙂

  5. whoaaa .. looking at the comments it looks as if its some comments contest ..

    I have tried both the techniques .. i have left mys self respect so many times .. and tried to sort out the problem .. but at the end of the day i found myself compromising with him/her rather than finding a solution to the problem..

    without losing my self – respect i have encountered nothing but misery .. so dude .. nothin has worked for me .. maybe i am not the right guy to answer your question but hey what the hell .. i have the right to write a comment 😉 ..

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